You’ve enjoyed a couple of days off & you’ve just polished off a delicious roast dinner. You become aware that something is niggling at the back of your mind. The carefree, relaxed feeling that’s been with you is beginning to fade away, & then the realisation begins to creep in as the day draws to an end… it’s almost Monday.
For some this can mean excitement at the thought of what lies ahead… but often, it can mean a growing sense of unease & anxiety.
You may be cramming to complete that bit of homework you put off doing, or maybe you’re thinking about that huge deadline, or that feeling when you remember there’s a pile of unfinished stuff from your ‘To-Do’ list that you dumped on your desk on Friday as you excitedly thought ‘sod it; it can wait’! & ran into the weekend as fast as you could.
If you think about it, Sunday’s the Friday to the working week & is probably in total contrast to the feelings they conjure up for you. Friday = excitement; happiness; freedom;– there are tonnes of memes that do the rounds on social media wishing everyone a Happy Fri-Yay or the old classic Thank Fudge it’s Friday! You know the ones…
Compare this to Sundays / Mondays. They’re usually pretty negative. The sense of dread can be very real – it can feel like the weekends disappear in the blink of an eye, yet the week days feel like an extended version of one of The Lord of The Rings books.
But are ‘Sunday Blues’ a real thing? Or maybe we think they are so they become just that?!
Having more freedom at the weekend – away from having to do – can come really hard, and as it’s the 1st day of the week, it’s understandably the day that feels the worst of the 5. Setting the alarm, saying no to that extra glass of gin or not being able to stay up as late as you want all adds to Sunday evenings ending in a less than cheery way!
So, are ‘Sunday blues’ a real thing? Yea, I think Sunday Blues are real – I know I’ve felt them. There’ve been times I’ve felt overwhelmed & under pressure at work, or just dreaded re-entering the ‘real world’, and I’ve felt myself become sadder as the hours ticked on by.
For those who find comfort in their safe space – wherever it is – that space away from the routine; having to leave this & go to work / college or school can be really, really tough. For those kids who have a tough time at school, their sense of dread must be awful – at least as adults we have a little more control over things. If your child is feeling it on a Sunday, notice them, talk to them
What can I do if I’m worrying about the coming week?
- Talk to someone about how you’re feeling.
- Self-Care – Try & spend some time recharging; relaxing – whatever brings you some joy J
- Try some mindfulness to help keep you present in the here & now. Acknowledge the anxious thoughts – but let them pass; refocusing on what’s going on right now.
- If it’s possible, try and look for the positives amongst the more negative parts of the week ahead – this isn’t always easy though, and I appreciate that.
Whatever it is that may cause you to feel anxious about Mondays, be kind to yourself
**Of course, this isn’t the case for everyone – some love the routine some enjoy escaping their lives & entering into school / work life. The working week for many can actually be a sanctuary; so for them these feelings can be the total opposite…
Lynsey Wall, www.counsellinginsomerset.co.uk
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